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09 July 2008 @ 04:43 pm
I recently found this blog post by a pro-lifer on women who say they don't regret their abortions. The testimonial that jumped out at me, and the poster, the most was this one: "It has been two weeks, and I haven’t cried in days, I have slept, and I know my baby is in Heaven, and one day when I know I can do it, and provide a better life, I will."

I'm reminded of the quote from Frederica Mathewes-Green: "No woman wants an abortion as she wants an ice cream or a Porsche. She wants an abortion as an animal caught in a trap wants to gnaw off its own leg." And I think I'm starting to understand why there's such a conflict between pro-lifers who want to believe that all women must regret their abortions and pro-choicers who want to believe that no woman ever does; maybe it's just a difference of definition. Maybe in a sense we're both right: women don't regret being out of the trap, to use Mathewes-Green's imagery, but they do regret having to gnaw off their own leg to do it.
 
 
13 June 2008 @ 11:37 am
So what are some good pro-life books that you'd recommend?

I found Margaret Sanger's Eugenic Legacy to be incredibly eye-opening, if really, really depressing.
 
 
09 June 2008 @ 12:19 am
how did your blogswarm go? i forgot about it! so i missed it :( and didn't post anything
 
 
Fellow badprolifers,

I'm holding a pro-life, pro-contraception blogswarm on May 31. It's sort of a response to this, but it's been a long time coming. I think our view is right, it's sensible, it's much more common than anybody knows about, and it should be heard!

If you'd like to participate, please leave a comment either here or in the blogswarm post I linked to above. Then, on May 31, write a post in your LJ (or other blog, if you have one) about anything related to being pro-life and pro-contraception. I'll do a roundup of all the posts and promote them.
 
 
05 May 2008 @ 07:18 pm
Law requires women to view ultrasound before having an abortion.

I wish women would not have abortions because they feel supported enough to go through with a pregnancy, not because they feel scared or shamed out of it. =/
 
 
 
22 April 2008 @ 01:27 am
Sometimes I think no one understands how adoption works, not pro-lifers, not pro-choicers. A lot of pro-lifers seem to act like the choice to give up your child to be raised by a stranger, even if you know you can't take care of a baby yourself, is an easy decision for an expectant mother to make. I always hear "well just give it up for adoption!" held up as an alternative to abortion without any acknowledgment of the need for emotional support when making that decision.

And I hear pro-choicers saying that pro-lifers who offer up adoption as an alternative to abortion are clearly hypocrites if they haven't adopted a child themselves. Apparently in their world adoption is not a lengthy, difficult, and expensive process, and anyone who can't afford it or whom an adoption agency won't let adopt is not allowed to have morals.
 
 
09 April 2008 @ 11:59 pm
Hullo, just trying out LiveJournal. All of this is new to me.

Anyway, I'm a introverted office worker from Alabama and I guess I wouldn't be one's first choice of an "unconventional" pro lifer. I'm an ex-conservative (the strangest thing I did in my 20s!), practically agnostic, and definitely have some issues with the mainstream pro-life movement. Lately I've gotten in trouble with some "bad" prolifers in the traditional sense (they don't fit the image, are pagan/goth, etc) because I'm willing to really criticize the movement as a whole.
I do think they rely too much on traditional gender roles and misconceptions that have never been scientifically proven. (Not so much "bad" prolifers in general, but just prolifers in general). I won't cahnge my mind about how I feel about things, but I worry about the infighting.
 
 
 
......with women having more than one abortion in a short period of time, or having abortions instead of using contraception.   Read it here.
 
 
12 February 2008 @ 03:08 pm
Talking to your kids about sex helps delay sexual activity.

Says Sarah Brown, CEO of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, “Teenagers are under a lot of pressure to be sexually active." Nationwide polling by the group has found most boys believe sexual activity is expected of them as teens, and most girls believe attracting boys and looking sexy are among the most important things they can do.

It's a hard balance to try to discourage teenagers from having sex without acting like sex is something dirty, wrong, or shameful. But I think the best thing we can do is to be honest and open about sex, instead of acting like it's something to hide, and to emphasize the fact that people should have sex or not have sex because it's something they want to do, rather than something they feel they're pressured or expected to do.